Helping your Relationship

Gabe Roy-Wright - Clinical Counsellor

Experiencing Fighting, Nagging, Misunderstandings? How Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) Can Help Your Relationship 

If you and your partner have been arguing more, growing apart, or feeling like you're stuck in the same painful patterns, you're not alone. Many couples find themselves wondering, "Where did our connection go?" or "Why does it feel like we’re just not on the same page anymore?" The good news is that disconnection doesn’t have to mean the end of your relationship. There’s a type of couples therapy called Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) that’s helped thousands of people just like you rebuild closeness, trust, and love—no matter how far apart you might feel right now. 

Emotionally Focused Therapy is a highly effective approach to couples counseling that focuses on strengthening your emotional bond. It’s based on the idea that we all have a deep need to feel safe, seen, and supported in our closest relationships. When that connection starts to break down, it can lead to misunderstandings, hurt feelings, and cycles of conflict or distance. EFT helps you and your partner slow down, understand what’s really happening in those painful moments, and learn new ways to reach for each other—ways that build connection instead of pushing each other away. It can also help whether you’re feeling miles apart or just stuck in a rut. It’s especially useful if you’re dealing with: 

Constant arguments, nagging, or misunderstandings 

Struggles with emotional or physical intimacy (not having the level of sex you’d like in the relationship) 

Pain from past betrayals or unresolved issues (infidelity, gambling, substance use) 

Feeling more like roommates than partners 

A sense that something’s missing—even if you can’t quite name it 

You don’t have to figure it all out on your own. EFT offers a map—a way back to each other. 

You can find more info at www.kootenaycounselling.ca or at 250-362-5035